The Truth About My Relationship

Please excuse my momentary rant/ lecture, but I feel it is necessary.
I see so many people who complain about their relationships or post about this fantasy love that they are hoping to find and then get terribly disappointed when it doesn't work out like that. It makes me sad. As I'm approaching my 3 year anniversary with Logan I realize how lucky I am. And it's not just luck, or fate that has made our relationship work, its a LOT of effort. We aren't perfect, and we are certainly different. In fact, most of the time I think we're more different than alike. However, I love him, with my whole heart. I do believe we we're meant for each other, or that we're soul mates. As ridiculous as that sounds, I believe it. I could not picture myself with anyone other than him, we make each other better people and we connect on a level that you just wouldn't understand until you feel it for yourself. And that makes all of the effort worth it. I know I've only been married for 3 years, and I still have plenty to learn, but this is what I know so far.
It's not easy to make a relationship work. It takes patience. It will try your patience until you think you have no more left, but somehow you find just a little bit more deep down inside of you. You disagree, and sometimes you disagree about things that you could never imagine yourself compromising on, but you find yourself making those compromises and somehow it feel less like compromising and more like loving. Sometimes you feel unappreciated or not good enough, and in those moments you hurt. Occasionally your spouse is superman and does something perfect that makes you see the light; but most of the time he doesn't have a clue and you have to take shit into your own hands and choose to feel good about things, and feel secure, and know that he loves you. The biggest thing is realizing that your significant other has those same feelings sometimes, and you have to make efforts to remedy them. You have to be willing to compromise, you have to be willing to be patient, you have to speak up and remind them that you love them, that they're attractive, that they did something right and ignore some of the things they do wrong. You have to remember to praise each other, to remind each other how much you value what you have and what you do for one another. And thats the reality. Love is hard work. But love is the most rewarding thing.
The fantasy is there, but it's not what you expect. Its hard, it has ups and downs, it makes you cry and it makes you smile. But at the end of the day you have each other and that's the greatest blessing you could ever have.


Sorry for my mush and gush, but I have to put up with all your crap on Facebook, so at least I gave you the courtesy of writing it in my blog. ;)